I tend to fall into patterns of behavior associated with this negative destiny when I get mired down in 7th house affairs:

Attempting to please other other people, worrying about what others think of me, depending on other people for my own welfare, taking a back seat to the leadership of others, laziness, gullbility, assuming that other people's wants,needs, desires are more important than my own.

So it follows that the more I trust myself and build a highly individualistic life through my own efforts, the more peace, balance, and grace I will experience, and the more meaningful will my artistic work be. And conversely, the more I attempt to find completeness with someone else, or devote myself to the happiness of another person, the more thwarted, needy, spirtually unnourished, compulsive, and off balance will I be.

Neat, huh? I think I finally get the exact formula. I understood it before, but now I know exactly how to plug it all in. What's so neat is how different everyone's is.