December 18, 2002 | 3:02 PM

I just read something and it made me burst into tears.

I could have written what she wrote six months ago. I could have still written it today. It hurts when you don�t have any answers. It hurts when someone else you love is in pain and you can truly feel that pain because you know�you�ve been exactly there where she is. And you can love that person and support her and be there for her and you know you have really good advice to give her. But what you can�t answer is the question �Why?� and �When will this stop hurting?� Not that she�s asking you that, but you�re asking that of yourself. You re-live those questions at least once a day, and still there isn�t any response.

I don�t know when it stops hurting. I don�t know how to reconcile those feelings. I don�t know when you get over it. And I don�t know why it happens.

I do know that I love her. I do know that many people love her. I do know that she deserves the very best in the world and I do know there is something good that comes out of this. I just am not exactly sure what it is.